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The Law of Intuition- by Telana Simpson

Do you follow your own sense of knowing, or do you look outside to others for direction and affirmation? There’s a fine line between getting feedback and using it to develop ourselves constructively, and feeling at the mercy of what others think about us, such that we take things personally or can feel immobilised without someone telling us who we are or what to do....
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Being Beautiful- by Adele Green

Beauty is the value we give to something. When we acknowledge it, we see it as beautiful. Just like loving something is accepting and appreciating it. As I experienced my own journey of rejection, I came to know that I had to do for myself what I wanted from other people. I realised....
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The Law of Action- by Telana Simpson

There are some “Laws” in this world that many authors, gurus and accomplished people talk about. The theory states that the universe works according to a set of laws, which are as real as and have as much impact on our lives as the Law of Gravity. These are laws like....
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How to master your Goals - by Telana Simpson, (fisrt published in Business Report, January, 2005)

How many times have we promised ourselves that we will make a change as of January 1, only to find that by February, we have reverted to our old habits? Six months later, how many of us can even remember our resolutions? Some of the main reasons why New Year Resolutions are unsuccessful are ....
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The NLP Goal Setting Model - by Dr. Bob Bodenhamer

No doubt, you may have considered the New Year and what you want to accomplish. In recent decades, many have written about the process of effectively setting goals. Many years ago I memorized the acrostic for S.M.A.R.T. goals....
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Master Your Matrix- Become A Frame Game Master

The field of NLP, along with the Cognitive Sciences, and most models for developing personal mastery, have long talked about our frames of mind. They highlight that there are better and healthier mental frames that would make life more fun and give us more success, health, and wealth ....
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We are the framers - by Dr Michael Hall

To think is to frame. To give something a name identifies it and doing so puts it within a frame. When an infant does this, the child begins to populate his or her world—“toy, doggie, mommy, daddy, eye, toes.” In this way we create the meanings that become the World that we live within. As we name things, we create a vocabulary of terms. This answers the most fundamental question, “What is X?” After that come more complex meanings: “Why is X?” “What is X for?” “Where does X come from?” “What causes X?”

Thinking creates and sets frames. That’s why framing is the very heart of human functioning. We frame things. And we frame things at many levels....
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Mastering the Matrix of the Frames of your Mind - by Dr Michael Hall

The sci-fi movie hit of 1999, “The Matrix,” described life in the Twenty-Third Century, after the great war between humans and A.I. (Artificial Intelligence). The Machines won. As the movie opens, most humans are imprisoned in egg-like structures where they are harvested for their brain energy. There’s a few who live on the outside, but only a few. They are about the only ones who know “the truth.”....
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Do you need your Matrix Reloaded? - by Dr Michael Hall

In the first movie, The Matrix, Thomas Anderson woke up to the Matrix that had him, took the red pill, and exited that computer-generated world. From there he began to re-enter other matrices to be trainedNeo, the "new" one and began to learn how to master the matrix. in how to master the matrix. Morpheus coached him through many programs, the jumping program, detecting Agents program, etc. In the process, he became Neo, the "new" one and began to learn how to master the matrix....
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Neuro-Semantics as the Matrix of your Mind Part 1 - by Dr Michael Hall

If NLP is about "running your own brain" and Representation, then Neuro-Semantics is about the Frames and Frames-within-Frames that form the larger mental contexts within which the Representations occur. Represent a crisis event in your life and that gives us some information, but what does it mean to you? How do you interpret it? Frame it?....
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The Story about Perception - by Dr Michael Hall

Is Perception Projection or is it also partly Detection? There’s a saying going around the world of NLP that asserts absolutely, “Perception is projection.” But, is that accurate? How accurate is it? What part of it is not accurate? What part of it is not useful?... it seems to me to be a very problematic idea and one that can create some hurtful responses if not handled carefully. Is perception just projection, is that all it is or could it also be partly detection?....
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Be the best you can be at that interview - by Ulrike Schöttler, January 2009

Becoming employed is a business on its own. Job-seeking is not an easy task and not always a successful one. Looking for a job or a career opportunity is a full-time job. And once you have found a potential opportunity, it also takes some knowledge and skills to process your job application expertly.....
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All or Nothing Thinking - by Michelle Duval, October 2008

All or nothing thinking, also known as black and white and either/or thinking, is a cognitivebehavioural style that is expressed in our thinking, speaking, feeling, choosing and acting. You may intentionally choose to use this style for different contexts and activities, or it could be an overused pattern outside your awareness that dominates your thinking and your life....
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Finding Balance- by Telana Simpson, August 2009

Balance is a concept that we all strive towards: “I need to find balance between my work and personal life”. Yet the concept of balance and the continual telling ourselves we need to have more of it in our life, can often lead to the stress we feel in managing our time. Dr Linda Friedland is well known for achieving a lot work wise, while juggling her life as a wife and mother of 5 children. One of her most useful concepts is....
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Blowout Excuses!- by Telana Simpson, January 2010

Beware- reading this article will be dangerous for your excuses!

So the goal you’ve set for yourself is very important to you. You really want to achieve it. It would just make your life so much better once you reach it. So you take the first step, and maybe the second step towards achieving it. Then your alarm goes off early to wake you up to take the next step, but you say to yourself “I’m tired, I’ll just lie here for a few more minutes” and then another hour goes by and you missed....
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The Power of NO!- by Telana Simpson, May 2010

How do you feel about the word "no"? It’s just a two lettered word. However it has a lot of power in it - such power that its use has often been tabooed.

How frequently do we say "yes" to a request of our time and/or resources, when we really wanted or needed to say "no"? And we said "yes" rather than "no" because we didn't want to hurt that persons feelings, or we think it's rude to say no, or its shows that we don't care if we say no etc. There are a myriad of beliefs behind why so many people don't have permission to say no. Two of our most basic instincts is that of....
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Communication Responsibility- by Telana Simpson, August 2010

The meaning of your communication is the response you get.

This must be one of the most empowering presuppositions I have come across in the wealth of information available about communicating. It’s an idea that when taken on board, leaves you in a place of choice, feeling empowered and able to take responsibility for your communicating.

Information comes at you and is taken in through your....
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The Body’s Ability to Heal Itself- by Devorah Kur, August 2010

People think that if they fall and hurt their arm they are off to the doctor for X-rays , while an emotional problem gets handled by a psychologist - and mind and body are two separate issues. Well, why then do we get butterflies in our stomachs when we are nervous; have sweaty hands before an exam or feel relaxed when we are laughing? The truth is that the mind and body are closely related, and this is called the BODYMIND connection...
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Addicted to Comfortableness- by Telana Simpson, January 2011

Are you addicted to the right comfortableness? As human beings we have the drive to learn and evolve. In order to grow spiritually or psychologically, inward development is needed and that involves being open to and getting in touch with our inner processes. I was listening to a lecture by Rob Nairn, a Western teacher of Tibetan Buddhism, about Projection and how it relates to our growth in life. He mentions that...
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