| THE
SECRET
WEALTH CREATION ATTITUDE
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By L.
Michael Hall, Ph.D.
Presenter of Wealth Building Training
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"What lies behind us and what lies before
us are tiny matters
compared to what lies within us."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
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| Would you like to explore
a question that will help to identify how optimistic, success-oriented,
and likely to succeed you are? If so, then notice what you immediately
think when you hear the following question? What immediately pops
into your mind? |
If something
goes wrong as your working on a project, or with a team, or on a
highly critical objective, which would you prefer—to discover
that it was something in your area or something external to yourself?
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| Now, I have to admit that
this is a test question as you will soon discover. It’s a trick.
The trick to it will show why the preferred answer is counter-intuitive
to how most of us think and how we have been trained to think. It
also goes against how most of us are oriented in life—we are
oriented to move away from a positive feeling and attitude about failure,
failing, making mistakes, messing up, flobbing it, or welcoming errors.
I mean, really, who wants that? Yet, this is the paradox. It is by
entering into this "dark" side of things, welcoming this
shadow, and kissing this dragon that we actually take some powerful
steps to greater success. How in the world does this work? |
This
counter-intuitive response involves numerous powerful frames of
mind that put us into the very best states for ongoing development,
unleashing new potentials, and using every experience for accelerating
our learning. The paradox begins on the level of acceptance. Acceptance
is the ability to look reality in the face without caving in. We
call this ego-strength. This is the strength of mind and person
(sense of self) to welcome reality for whatever it is for the purpose
of analyzing it and figuring out how best to cope with it. |
Yet
there’s another choice. Rather than treating these as opposites,
dichotomizing them and turning them into an area of conflict in
our mind-and- emotions, what if we created a synergy out of them?
Thinking about things as opposites along a linear continuum is actually
a lower and more primitive kind of thinking. It’s what we
call linear thinking. When we rise above that kind of thinking to
non-linear, systemic, and holistic thinking, we are able to create
new levels of synergy so that new emergent properties arise, things
that are "more than the sum of the parts." These new gestalts then contain a higher level integration than "balance"
ever could. |
The paradox
also goes right to the heart of responsibility, of taking and owning
responsibility for one’s life. It was Martin Seligman who
discovered in his study of helplessness and optimism that when optimists
experienced failure, they typically attributed their failure to
something they did or did not do. They looked at their actions,
words, relationships, and actions. This attitude in the face of
failure is what enables them to take the next step, namely, "If
I caused it, I can correct this." And that’s where the
power of persistent success lies. It lies in ownership of responsibility.
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Conversely,
those who deny any responsibility, who fear failure and mistakes,
who dread being wrong more than anything move into denial, cover-up,
projection, rationalization, and all of the other defense mechanisms.
Yet these protective maneuvers actually reveal the person’s
inner insecurity and lack of ego-strength. So while the person is
investing mind and emotion into defensiveness, the person fully
at peace with his or her fallibility is looking those failed attempts
directly in the face and harvesting learnings and wisdom. This puts
that person miles ahead in moving toward his or her goals. |
Doesn’t
this completely reframe failure, errors, and mess ups? Welcoming
them enables us to learn from them more efficiently and so accelerates
our development. And by seeing opportunities for wisdom in every
action that didn’t complete get the results we wanted, we
embrace the failure as a rare and unprecedented opportunity to learn
something critically important. |
So,
why do optimists fare better than pessimists? They operate from
the frame or inner game of taking full ownership for their performances.
This saves them the time, energy, and negative states caused by
whining, complaining, blaming, fearing failure, dreading being wrong,
etc. They don’t have either the time for that nor the disposition. |
Whining
about conditions over which we have no control is not only counter-productive,
but actually creates, feeds, and nurtures one of the most self-sabotaging
frames of all, the victimization frame. This creates a defeatist
view of the world and of life that leads nowhere. People who play
that inner game then stop trying, stop working, stop learning, they
become negative and they get into a negative mood of, "Why
try?" It is this frame of mind that does the most damage to
them. |
So the
next time something goes wrong, I’d heartily recommend that
you use the kind of inner self-talk that optimists use, to immediately
go inside and say to yourself, |
"I hope it was my fault!"
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"I hope it was my failure; then I will get some
top-quality feedback for fabulous discoveries and new found wisdom."
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"I take total responsibility for the outcomes and
results that I’m getting."
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One
of the key secrets to success is that when you get knocked down,
be sure to land on your feet! Such resilience will enable you to
stay focused on the most critical elements of all, namely, what
you can do to obtain more and more efficient results. Along these
lines it has been that "The best defense against unfair workplace
treatment is performance, is being able to perform better and more
effectively." |
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we present at the trainings whether at APG, Wealth Creation, Meta-Coaching,
Trainers training, etc.? |
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