Am I ready for Coaching?

Coaching might be for you if you want to step up, into your power and take responsibility for your own actualisation, for actualising of your best. This means that you feel you are ready to and really want to:

• develop unconditional self esteem, value and worth
• get on with things, to look for what needs to be done and do it
• be proactive
• initiate action
• think through decisions
• continuously question and learn
• identify your values, visions and dreams and stand up for them
• pursue your goals
• bounce back from set-backs
• keep awakening your resources
• keep accessing new strengths
• boldly make decisions and follow through on them
• turn new leanings into habits
• make yourself accountable to others
• operate as a great team player
• work with and through others
• allow others to hold you accountable, and search for and build structures of accountability

You will know when you are ready for coaching, especially the Meta-Coaching offered here at Inner Coaching, when you have any of these characteristics:

• You are unable to act on what you know.
  Do you know more than you do?
  Do you know lots of ways to improve the quality of your work or life and yet for all that intelligence and wisdom you still can’t pull it off?
• You keep experiencing the same problems year after year.
  Are you overflowing with lots of good advice for solving a difficulty and yet the same problem continues to recur?
• You feel controlled by something that you can’t specify.
  Do you feel “played” by some known or unknown game that keeps putting you through the same pattern over and over?
  Does it seem that no matter what you do, the “system” seems to be plotting against you? (Whether the system is your work, family, body, etc.)
• Your attempted solutions only make the problem worse.
  Does a way of thinking, feeling, or acting keep repeating itself and when you fight it, it gets stronger as if it resists being defeated?
• You find yourself going round and round in circles.
  Do you feel that you’re just going round in circles trying to find better solutions for developing better habits in leading, negotiating, managing, eating, exercising, relating, succeeding, etc.?
• Over time you experience increasingly diminishing returns.
  Do you find that you have one or more patterns that the longer you use it becomes less and less useful or less and less effective?

So are you ready for Inner Coaching’s Meta-Coaching? You are, if you are willing to:

• think ahead, and take initiative, in your own growth and development
• assume full responsibility and accountability for your actions
• accept full responsibility for your happiness, mood, emotions and states
• stand up for your values and principles
• continuously question, explore, and expand your possibility thinking
• plan for new changes and transformations
• apply truths, principles, insights to yourself
• proactively approach your relationships
• discern what you are responsible for and whom you are responsible to
• access and awaken new resources
• keep expanding your problem solving skills
• regularly step back, evaluate where you are, get accurate feedback and then make adjustments
• put in the energy and time and seek assistance, and do a fair exchange for that assistance (i.e. willing to and have the means to pay for hiring a coach)

If you are ready for coaching, then there is just one more question to ask. Are you coachable?

Am I Coachable?

Coachability has to do with the ability to receive coaching and to use coaching for discovery, awareness, change and improvement. If a person is not coachable, this prevents that person from being ready for and receptive to coaching. Instead they may need training, consulting, or therapy to prepare themselves for coaching.

Do you know if you are able to receive meta-coaching, and have what it takes to derive the best from hiring a meta-coach?

Coachable factors are:

1. Openness
   • open to change, learning and personal development
   • open to examining your own beliefs, understandings, decisions
2. Feedback openness
   • open for receiving feedback from your coach without taking it personally
3. Ego Strength
   • has sufficient strength of your sense of self for facing reality as it is
   • has sufficient power, determination, "roadability" to engage reality and to face the challenges of being coached
4. Committed to Growth
   • committed and invested in your own development
   • willing to change
5. Relationship readiness
   • ready and able to enter into a coaching relationship
   • willing to relate in an open and exposed way during the coaching process
6. Vulnerable
   • ready and able to disclose oneself and be real and truthful to another
7. A change embracer
   • passionate about making a change or transformation
8. Dreams and Goals
   • has goals, hopes, and dreams for oneself and ones career and life,
   • has a dream that s/he wants to work on during the coaching process
9. Patience
   • has the patience and persistence to stay with the coaching process

My Next Step?

Send an email with your contact phone details to book your Readiness Session with a coach, for you to experience Coaching and establish whether it is right for you. In this 1½ hour session, your coach will explain more about Coaching, you'll both be working out what you want to change or develop, and you'll discuss a framework for achieving those goals.

More info on the Readiness Session here.

Click here for Guidelines for choosing a coach.