Although communicating with each other is something we all do naturally, and outside of our awareness, it is a skill that we can learn about and nurture further. The way we talk and the words we use are the fundamentals of how we interact with our environment, other people and ourselves.

This communication includes non-verbal attributes, like our facial expressions, gestures and energy. It is how we convey our meanings and intentions and ideas and who we are, and hope to be. It is how we make, or don't make, things happen in our lives, and in our world.

Communication, even just 'talking', is an ability that we use ineffectively or effectively, in every aspect of our living lives, and even through the written and recorded expressions of ourselves after we die.

At Inner Coaching, we believe that this ability to express ourselves is a foundational and crucial skill in today’s dynamic world. And it is a skill that we can learn and develop effective communication skills!

 

   
  “It is through talk, through dialogue, through conversation, that we mostly change”

- L. Michael Hall, Ph.D. and Michelle Duval, Master Coach 		 
   

Here we list our options to assist you to enhance and develop effective communication skills:

Areas that we specialize in:

Feedback and criticism

  • Do you worry that you come across too harsh or too direct, when your intention is just to give feedback to help the person? But your good intentions are perceived as hurtful, harsh and confrontational?
  • Does giving someone constructive criticism scare you? Do you find it difficult?
  • When someone gives says something about your performance, do you take it personally, as criticism and find it hard to hear?
  • Would you like to know how to give someone feedback in a way that opens up possibilities for them, and they thank you for the information that will lead them to grow and develop themselves?
  • Would you like to be able to hear any form of feedback or criticism, and know how to look past the person’s skill at giving it and still get the most out of the information?
  • Would you like to not take feedback personally?

Conflict, confrontation and arguments

  • Do you tend to take things personally?
  • Can you deal with conflict and arguments and disagreements in a comfortable way? Or do you hide from them, hate them, even run from them? Would it be more useful to be able to handle them constructively?
  • Are you conflict adverse and had enough of being so? Do you want to be able to stand your ground, be heard and hear the other person, voice your opinion, and all in a way that is respectful of yourself and the other person?
  • Can you manage your emotions in the heat of a moment? And express them in a way that is healthy and useful and constructive?
  • Would you like to get to a point in your relationship with conflict where you can not fear conflict and rather prevent it as much as possible, because you are communicating more often and clearly, and more early in situations?
  • Would it be useful to have the skill to bring up unpleasant subjects in pleasant ways?
  • Are you scared that you will hurt the other person’s feelings or fear that the relationship will end if you do confront the person?
  • Do you avoid confrontation and dance around it? Do you find that this makes it worse? And that when you get around to it (usually by being forced to deal with it) it has grown to become large and unmanageable?
  • Do you have any of these fears of confrontation:
    • Unpleasantness of the subject
    • You dislike being negative”
    • Someone will personalise it, you or the other person
    • Someone will dislike or criticize you
    • Someone will reject you, abandon you, end the relationship
    • Someone will get so angry, the anger will result in violence
    • You fear arguments and disagreements

Blushing and embarrassment

  • Do you blush easily and feel embarrassed when all the attention is placed on you in meetings or with friends?
  • Do you get red in the face, feel hot and flustered, and tend to shrink and away and loose your voice?
  • Do you feel all stressed when you’re put on the spot and asked a question?
  • Would you like to overcome this and rather enjoy engaging in interesting conversations?

Being “over emotional”

  • Can you manage your emotions in the heat of a moment? And express them in a way that is healthy and useful and constructive?
  • Do you have a healthy relationship with your anger?
  • Are you able to handle when someone else shows emotions or appears over emotional?
  • Should emotions be in the boardroom?
  • Do you know the art of handling emotions effectively and intelligently?
  • How useful would it be to develop a strong and powerful relationship to both positive and negative emotions?
  • Is there such a thing in your life as having a kind of relationship with your feelings that allows you to become emotionally alive and experience emotional vitality?
  • Do you feel emotionally closed, repressed and fearful of feelings? Or alive, open to life, to love, to people, to dreams and hopes and much more?
  • What is your level of emotional intelligence or EQ?

Expressing yourself, getting your message across

  • Do you battle to voice yourself? To put your thoughts into your own words so that you can articulate your ideas and emotions?
  • Do you understand and use the power of your voice to express yourself fully, to articulate yourself and own and understand what you need to, to incorporate your learnings?
  • Are you able to manage your states, and “step into” your best, most confident state for when you need to present to others?
  • Would you like to improve your ability to influence others, to persuade them and present with confidence and charisma to get your message across?
  • Do you have flexibility to adjust your presentation or communication to meet another at their preferred style, to help them understand your point of view and get into rapport with them?
  • How easily do you get along with people and slip into rapport with them?
  • Do you listen to really hear what another is saying so that you can tweak your answer to get your point of view across?

Services we offer to assist you in developing your Communication Skills:

Communication Excellence Training

A 3 day course that will teach you the basics of how we communicate, and get our message across to others... More.

Contact us to book your place and for a brochure and more details about the above effective communication skills training.

Find out more at a talk:

Introductory Talk for Business and Entrepreneurs

Introductory Talk for Entrepreneurs

Introductory Talk for Individuals, Couples, Parents

 

TED-Style Effective Speaking Course

A one day course that will teach you to present TED-style.... creating high energy, high insight, high value and engaging presentations that will have your audiences buying your products, believing in your vision and wanting to hear more. You'' build your confidence and learn to organise your thoughts. Quickly. Logically. Effectively.... More.

Positive Confrontation

4 hour workshop taking what is learnt in the Communication Excellence Training to the next level, focusing specifically on dealing with conflict and confrontation.

 

Power Sessions – 2 hour workshops to sharpen your skills

  • Giving and Receiving Feedback
  • Art of Handling Emotions
  • Self Esteem
  • Responsibility
  • ...more info.

Communication Excellence Personal Coaching Programme

20 hours of private coaching face to face or over skype with our Communication Coach, Telana Simpson , to individualise your learnings and meet your specific needs.

 

Coming soon:

- Shadow Coaching - following you or sitting in on a presentation to give you feedback that will take your communication to the next level and beyond!

- Communication Master Mind Group - to harness the power of Master Mind groups to improve your communication skills.

 

Articles to read:

Book a Readiness Session to find out which option would be most suited to your needs.