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Inner Coaching EXPRESS Newsletter
ISSUE: '‘I can’t or I won’t! You decide.' April 2008 Telana Simpson, ACMC Inner Coaching
Contents 1. ‘I can’t or I won’t! You decide.' (FEATURE Article) 2. Communication Excellence 3. Personal Expression 4. About EXPRESS Newsletter

1. FEATURE: I can’t or I won’t! You decide.

Your choice of language influences your experience of life. The actual words you use when you talk can create a state and a perception of reality that will result in you experiencing life in a certain way. If you don’t believe me, then try this little exercise:
Think of something that you would love to have that’s on the more expensive side- like a new item of clothing or a holiday. Now notice how you feel when you say to yourself the following 2 statements about that expensive item:
I can’t afford it. How can I afford it?
Very few words changed in the two statements, yet they result in very different experiences.
We have a habitual way of thinking and talking that is termed our “modal operator”. It reflects our beliefs about the mode in which we operate in the world.
We can operate from a mental mode of laws, where we use language like should, must, and have to. We can also function from the mental world of opportunities, where the words we would use would be possible to, can do, will, may, would, could, or from the mental world of impossibilities, where the words commonly used would be ... CLICK HERE FOR FULL ARTICLE

2. Communication Excellence Seminar
Understanding your own modal operator style, as well as being able to identify the preferred mode of operating of another person, can be very useful. You’ll be able to change your behaviour and thus your results and experience of life. And by choosing to use words that match another person’s modal operator style, you have more flexibility to motivate and influence them. If this is a skill you’d like to develop, then consider attending the Communication Excellence course in May- where modal operators will be just one of the many tools, techniques and understanding of communication skills that you will learn about. More information on the training can be found by clicking here. Or by contacting
Dates: 3 day Seminar: Part 1 – Saturday and Sunday 10th and 11th May 2008 Part 2 – Saturday 17 May 2008 Weekly Course: Part 1 – Monday nights for 2 hours on 5th, 12th, 19th May, 2nd, 9th, 23rd June 2008 Part 2 – Monday nights for 2½ hours on 30th June and 7th July 2008

3. The Personal Expression
I’m excited to have put together the Communication Excellence training, and look forward to running it in May. I’m interested to see which format is more useful and popular for people- the 3 day seminar or the 8 week course of 2 hours in the evenings…hmmm. I’ve had quite a social life lately- even had multiple invitations for the same nights! Funny thing is, it really makes me think I must be careful what I wish for, as reflecting now I remember I said in my personal life plan that I’d like to have lots of invitation to choose from! Hehe! Thanks friends for thinking of me when you have your parties! And for my life plan coming into reality! I also was nearly packing my car 2 weeks ago for a quick trip to Durban to make my next trade for onematchstick.co.za, but when I called the guy we realised that there was a miscommunication with the item model number that he had offered me. So I’m reconsidering the offers I have for the R3000 again- lots of them still coming in, so it’s sure keeping me busy investigating all the offers! But with a smile on my face :-) Smiles, Telana

4. About EXPRESS Newsletter
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Telana Simpson is a Professional Personal and Communication Coach. She is a caring and focused facilitator who has a passion for expression. She helps executives, individuals and entrepreneurs find authentic ways of communicating their inner potentials.

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