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Newsletters
How to Build Self-Esteem
Are you moving through the world trying to become a somebody? Do you feel defensive and reactive?
Or…
Are you a Somebody expressing yourself in this world? Do you feel open and responsive?
There is a difference, and it has huge implications for how we act
and feel in our day to day lives.In the first instance we seek experience
and things in the world in order to feel worthy and valuable....
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How to Build Self-Esteem II
In our last issue (click
here for Part 1) we explored what we mean by Self Esteem, and the
benefits of developing our sense of self. As we said, a strong self
esteem will leave you with a robust sense of self. This allows you to
feel more calm and secure when facing your everyday life... It's also
important to remember the difference between Self Esteem and Self Confidence.
Self Esteem is what we are, whereas Self Confidence is what we do....
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Celebrating 2005
It’s that time of year when a lot of us have been doing some
soul searching, reflecting, and planning for the year to come. There
is something about a new Calendar Year that boosts the motivation to
become more than we already are. I’m all for harnessing energy
to take me forward, and hence have spent a few days over the holidays
working on my 10 year plan....
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Goal Setting I
So why doesn’t Goal Setting work for many people? How many people
do you hear saying that goals are a waste of time? Plenty! And that
response usually comes from experiences where those people have made
goals, and then failed to achieve them. Some of the main reasons why
Goals are unsuccessful are:...
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Goal Setting II - Effective Goal Setting
In our last issue, we looked at reasons why goals can be unsuccessful,
and covered 2 key points, being defining the goal clearly, and then
setting steps with deadlines to reach them. Other points to make your
Goal a very Well Formed Goal are:
Check that it is self initiated and compelling: Take care to set a Goal
that you have....
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Frames
of Mind I- Communication skills
Every person you meet today, that you engage with in conversation,
that you try to influence or who tries to influence you in some way,
is operating from some frame of mind. It is this frame of mind that
is behind or above the actual words that they are using. It is this
frame of mind that determines their perspective; that determines what
they value, their style of thinking and feeling, and pattern for choosing
and behaving. All of which we experience through how that person communicates
with us....
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Frames of Mind II- Communication skills
As we started looking at Frames of Mind in my last issue (Part 1),
remember that these frames of mind are very contextual, and are only
more useful or less useful depending on the context. In this issue we’ll
be looking at our frames of mind about dealing with instructions. It’s
the frame of mind to do with our organizational style....
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Frames of Mind III- Communication skills
We’ve been exploring Frames of Mind that are common, especially
in the work place, and how they effect communication. We looked at the
preferred size of information people use when communicating and reasoning
in Part 1, and the frames
of mind about dealing with instructions in Part
2. The last frame of mind in these series that I’d like to
share with you today is about how we work with and compare data and
information. On the one side of the continuum we look for what matches
what we...
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Un-Insultability
How is your relationship with criticism? Thinking about it, most people
are quite skilled at dishing out criticism and sharing their bad moods
with others. Yet there are few of us who are able to handle the criticism
from - and confrontation and conflict with - others without getting
defensive, let along handling it with elegance and resourcefulness.
As there is a state of taking insult from such communications, there
is also a state of being un-insult-able....
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Motivate Yourself
How motivated are you to achieving your goals?
In previous issues I spoke of frames of mind and how they relate to
communication. Well, these frames of mind also influence how we communicate
with ourselves, and thus motivate ourselves. One particular frame of
mind is very much linked to our motivation, and the direction we tend
to send our mind and focus our attention....
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Elusive Happiness - A Perspective
Happiness is that "feeling good" feeling, that lightness
and joy that we feel when things are going the way we want and would
like them to go. Yet why do so many people always say they want to experience
more happiness? That they are un-happy now? That they wonder if they
will ever be happy all the time? It seems as if happiness is elusive-
out of our reach, transient and short-lived. And so it should be. Let
me clarify:....
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Glorious Failure
“I intentionally make at least three mistakes a day!” said
Dr Michael Hall at a training session I attended.
“Did he really just say that?” I wondered to myself.
“Yes, I try to make mistakes on purpose! Because if I’m
not failing, I believe that I’m not learning” Dr Hall continued.
That was the first time he introduced me to the concept of being gloriously
fallible....
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Change - is it THE Road Trip of your life?
Change. Transform. Modify. Alter. All these words are about moving
from one "space"- mental, emotional or physical- to another.
They all are about a journey- a trip, a movement- that is a constant
theme in life. Change is what we experience as the difference between
where we started and where we end up. It is a process which alters something,
so that it becomes different. It is also a set of actions- something
we do in the process of altering, modifying or transforming one state
to another....
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I can’t or I won’t! You decide.
Your choice of language influences your experience of life. The actual
words you use when you talk
can create a state and a perception of reality that will result in you
experiencing life in a certain way.
If you don’t believe me, then try this little exercise:...
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Affirmations that work
So you have your affirmation written out. It’s maybe even typed
up and printed, and stuck on your bathroom mirror, in your wallet, in
your diary, on your pc and inside your cupboard door. You spent a few
days saying it over and over to yourself, and eventually you notice
that the words on the paper have blurred and become part of the backdrop
of what ever else you are focusing on. You’re left with the feeling
that affirmations don’t work....
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Different perspectives for improved communication
Ever taken a moment to step back and think about how the position from
which you are perceiving something is influencing your communication
in that moment? Well I invite you now to take a step back and explore
a concept with me in NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) called “Perceptual
Positions”. We usually just think that what we are seeing is what
there is to see from our perspective. Yet in actual fact, our perspective
can come from....
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7 Truths about Emotions
Meaning doesn’t exist. You can’t see a chunk of meaning
in the fridge. Or trip over a piece of it on the floor. We as humans
though have the cognitive ability to give things meaning. A question
that follows is: how do we register meaning then? Or expressed another
way: does meaning have a feel to it? How do we know what meaning we
have given to some thing or some event? We do so by feeling meaning
through our emotions....
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I took the vow
I have taken the vow. "On November 7, 2008, at 9:45 am, the 500
people attending the Alliance for a New Humanity Human Forum in Barcelona
took a vow for non violence in their thoughts, speech and actions. Each
person decided to ask other people in their lives to join them in taking
the vow." I have taken this vow, and if you want to help add to
reaching a critical mass of people all wanting....
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Stress and our Health - By Nicole Burkhardt, BodyTalk Practitioner
Everyone of us has resigned to stress to a greater or lesser degree as our "inevitable, unwelcome companion". We accept it as the natural by-product of our daily lives in the modern world.
So what if we overreact and go into panic mode when a
deadline is near?
So what if we want to ignore our marriage problems?....
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The Secret to Resilience
"Life is difficult." That’s the opening paragraph in
the book "The Road Less Travelled" by M. Scott Peck. The second
paragraph starts: "This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths.
It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend
it. Once we truly know that life is difficult - once we truly understand
and accept it - then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is
accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters."....
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Stress and Social Status: The connection is astounding! - By Andrea Carter, a CBI & MindScape Instructor
It is a known fact that animals in the wild use hormones called adrenaline
and glucocorticoids in order to survive. Humans also have these same
hormones, although usually not in as high a dosage because we don't
live in the wild…or do we? Current research is finding that humans
now appear to have the same level of these hormones circulating through
their systems, ....
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Trust Rock Climbing! - By Telana Simpson
In my journey of the last few years, one of the words that came up often, and that continues to come up, is the word ‘Trust’. “You need to trust yourself more”. “Trust that your body will heal itself”. “The more you trust this healing process, the more effective it will be”. “Trust that what you need will be provided, in the right way and at the right time”. “Trust your abilities”.
It was challenging at times to trust, especially when I wasn’t
sure if what I was experiencing as trust was the kind of trust that
people were referring to. When I thought that I was in ‘trusting
mode’ and....
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The power of Emotions
Trust is an emotional state, made up of thoughts, feelings and beliefs
that translate into actions and experiences. In this 10 minute long
video clip, Greg Braden talks about the power of emotions and the latest
research that shows how they affect our world. What we choose to feel
changes our chemistry in our body and affects our reality. A pertinent
message is that we can use emotions to transform our experience of life....
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Finding Balance in Life! - By Telana Simpson
Balance is a concept that we all strive towards: “I need to find
balance between my work and personal life”. Yet the concept of
balance and the continual telling ourselves we need to have more of
it in our life, can often lead to the stress we feel in managing our
time. Dr Linda Friedland is well known for achieving a lot work wise,
while juggling her life as a wife and mother of 5 children....
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States of Consciousness are Contagious - By Telana Simpson
Listening to Echkart Tolle speak about how consciousness is transmitted,
reminded me about why I am so selective of what news I listen to and
which newspapers I read, if I read them at all. Consciousness is catchy.
And to add to this fact, our brains follow directions....
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Blowout Excuses! - By Telana Simpson
Excuses are seductive. They have a way of appearing so legitimate and
real and urgent in that moment that we excuse our self from doing something
that is, so we say to ourselves, important to us. And then we get disheartened
when we feel we let ourselves down. What might be happening though....
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The Power of NO! - By Telana Simpson
How do you feel about the word "no"? It’s just a two
lettered word. However it has a lot of power in it - such power that
its use has often been tabooed.....
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