How and why to pause when negotiating or confronting
Here’s an excerpt from my article which was published on the FutureFemales.co blog, in March 2019, where the [...]
How to Start? 20 Seconds of Insane Courage
By Telana Simpson One of my favourite movie quotes is from the film “We Bought a Zoo”. It’s [...]
How to have a difficult conversation with your Child
When a writer for a magazine asked me to comment on an article she was writing about having difficult conversations with your child, the scenario she put forward brought up my own memory of a similar situation I had with a cute boy and my mother. As I put on my daughter hat, and with hindsight all these years later, the pointers I am about to share would have saved me a lot of fuss and years of wondering about ‘what could have been’. And it might have helped me to learn my own lessons about intimate relationships a lot sooner. […]
5 Ideas on how to be Uninsultable
Uninsultability. That's a great ability to have. Here are five tips to get over insults by being [...]
How to have a difficult conversation with your Boss
By Telana Simpson The dynamics between us and authority figures, and our views on those in positions of power, contribute significantly to the way we engage in difficult conversations with them. They are, after all, still human beings like us, as fallible as the next person. Yet they play a different role, and that role often has the ability to influence our life considerably. This fact though shouldn’t stop us from having conversations that count with them, and especially when the issue or outcome of that conversation impacts our quality of life. To have a vigorous conversation with your Manager at work, here are a few pointers to keep in mind, and to open the way for a more mutually beneficial outcome. […]
Coaching Case Study of a Director
When I met BP, he was a Sales Director, following having run his own company for a while. He felt he was fighting his way back to find himself, after the life altering experience of having to close down his company. With losing his business, he felt he had lost his self confidence and esteem, his personal sense of power and was feeling battered and like he had climbed into a shell. He avoided confrontation, would listen more and talk little, and so wasn’t voicing his opinions at work. He felt that due to him being reserved, he was not being recognized for the contribution he was and could make to the company he was now the Sales Director of. […]
How to have a difficult conversation about money
In many relationships, money is part of the relating between people, be it in terms of a salary [...]
How to have a difficult conversation with your Best Friend
It felt like one of those classic scenes from a movie. I moved something off the table, and [...]
How to have a difficult conversation
Written by Telana Simpson If we change the type of conversations we have, could we thereby change our [...]
Why so emotional?
Written by Telana Simpson “We know that, you’ve said it before” was the response I got when I was sharing my emotions with the team around an issue to do with a long term project I’ve been working on. That interruption stopped my train of thought and instead of moving from expressing the emotion I had to next share the underlying issue, I found that I rather had to deal with the interruption. […]