I was published in the FutureFemales.co blog, and the theme for December 2018 was around empowerment and power.

Here’s an excerpt from my article:

A Clue to Empowerment: Who’s Got Who’s Remote Control?

“Ah, I’ve given my remote away again, haven’t I?” she realised, as we reached the crux of the issue she brought to work on in her coaching session.

“It sounds like it,” I agreed, and followed by asking “so what do you want?”

“Well, I don’t want to feel so disempowered and out of control.  And so angry!  I want to take back my remote control.”

“And how can you do that, take back control by taking back your remote?” I asked curiously.

Personal Power

An important part of learning how to be more effective in our lives and relationships is to understand ourselves and specifically, how to manage ourselves.

Part of understanding ourselves is linked to looking at the concepts that we use to navigate the world, and we use words and language to name and describe these concepts.

One such concept is our sense of personal power and the related feelings of empowerment or disempowerment.

We’re ultimately the only one who can direct our life, and when we focus on what is within our control, and what is not, it helps us to draw a line, and thereby know where we can take action to effect the changes we seek or build the lives we would love.

To Empower

As we unpack the word ‘empower’, we see that it means to “give someone the authority or power to do something.”  It also means to “make someone stronger and more confident, especially in controlling their life and claiming their rights.”  (Google Dictionary).  We can empower ourselves too, as this definition still applies when it is related to ‘myself’ rather than to ‘someone’.

My client paused a bit, considering the situation within the concept of self-empowerment we’d learnt about in her previous sessions.


“Well, I need to remember that I own my remote – that my abilities to think and feel are my abilities, and that I have a voice and I get to choose how I act and respond.  I get to decide.”

“Yes,” I confirmed.

The four abilities, or personal powers, that we have full control over, because they are ours and ours alone, are our powers of thinking, feeling, saying and doing…

CONTINUE the article here