Written by Telana Simpson
Do you follow your own sense of knowing, or do you look outside to others for direction and affirmation?
There’s a fine line between getting feedback and using it to develop ourselves constructively, and feeling at the mercy of what others think about us, such that we take things personally or can feel immobilised without someone telling us who we are or what to do.
In a previous post I spoke about the Law of Action, and how the Laws of the World impact our lives. The Law of Intuition is a very critical one for us to live with integrity and authenticity.
People who feel very sensitive to criticism and who tend to spend a lot of mental and emotional energy worrying about what others think of them, tend to be less in touch with their own inner intuition. They examine constantly whether they are on the right track or doing the right thing, which is often defined for them by someone else.
By lacking a clear identity from not getting to know themselves, they can lean towards defining themselves by what others think about then, other’s attitude towards them, and what others seem to feel about them.
If we don’t answer the questions like:
- “Who am I?”
- “How am I doing?”
- “Am I ok?”
- “How do I look in your eyes?”
then someone else will. And then we feel at the mercy of their opinions.
Learning about how to turn criticism into constructive feedback, and developing ourselves such that we answer with a deep knowing who we are, and what we want, gives us the mastery skill of using other peoples input as a check and balance, rather than being disempowered by their opinions.
Dan Millman talks about the Law of Intuition in his book The Life You Were Born to Live: A Guide to Finding Your Life Purpose.
I summarise it here:
Law of Intuition –
As I stop monitoring other’s opinions, I connect with my own hearts wisdom. I will worship the god of my heart, not the god of opinion. What others think of me is really none of my business. I have an inspired, emotional connection to my heart (my own voice). I give authority to my quiet, inner voice, the only “opinion” that ultimately has value for me.
I contact my feeling centre, and then I can listen to others counsel or opinions without losing sight of my own intuition. My intuition is the place from which I determine what is best for my own life and I let others do the same. I make use of others views without being dependant on them. I don’t resist, ignore or seek others opinions, but rather listen to and acknowledge them, take what is useful, submitting all views to the wisdom of my own heart.
Next time others have opinions about who I am, how I am, or what I am doing, I can thank them for sharing, acknowledge their opinion, and let them know “Here is who I am, here is what I need, here’s what I’m doing.”
This is one of the Laws that I leverage to live authentically and in integrity. What are yours?
To you living authentically!
About the Author:
Telana is a dynamic, transformational Personal Coach and Blogger who specializes in communicating and relating. She is fascinated by consciousness evolution and goes on adventures to push her boundaries and preconceptions. She offers coaching and training programmes to help individuals develop their ability to express themselves and their potentials and improve their relationships, and is a host of an online TV show.